expectation: more you expect, the less you live

 DO YOU KNOW WHAT IS THE REASON FOR ALL OUR PAIN AND TROUBLES?

Our expectations!. The expectations that we make from others. Today all of us are bound by each other's expectations. Whether those are too slight or too substantial. The more you expect from others, the less satisfied you will be and more misery you will experience. No one can walk according to us. Everyone has their own life, which they want to live in their own way. 

We break through small hopes. Our same hope turns into despair. 

Expectation are linked with counterfactual thinking. 

We anticipate that we will come by so many marks and with the help of only those expectations, we weave our future. When we don't get those marks, then we are so completely shattered down. 

Today we look at so many stories where some students have even committed suicide which is now a common story. 

They end their own life because the expectation was very elevated. It is not imperative to have all the expectations always met.

Why do people go into so much depression?

Because their hopes are dashed.

Disappointment will come when your efforts don't  give you the expected reward. 

Suppose we are helping someone or genuinely thought of his superior. Now we start weaving expectations that I have supported him in his bad times, so in return he should also stand with me. But the bad reality is that it doesn't happen everytime. At that moments, we start to get hurt, disappointed and we get frustrated.

You start feeling regret that why you helped him. I shouldn't have.

but such notions are unrealistic. If all the people will help others in the hope of getting something in return, then no one will be able to help anyone today. Don't expect things to happen. It is better to be amazed than to be disappointed. 

Today our entire country is fighting with COVID-19. health workers are urging efforts to reduce epidemic and trying their best to increase medical capacity. So that rationing will be unnecessary and thus provides assistance to as many people as possible. But despite such efforts, millions of people are dying. If the doctors will think about themselves in such a pandemic situation that why should they help? Then perhaps those who are still alive today will not be saved. 

So, help each other without the hope of getting something in return.

BE A HELPING HANDS!

How many of you feel that our nature sometimes doesn't match with other people's? 

When nature doesn't match, what about misunderstanding? It is bound to happen. 

We expect other person to think, speak and act in a manner identical to ours. Neither less, nor more. But is exactly like us in everything. We feel that if we trust someone, that person should trust us equally. So when they don't trust us equally, we feel hurt. We are trying to change each other. 

We need just one point of knowledge. Our perception about people will change. And when our viewpoint changes, we feel compassion for them.

If someone speaks lies, we are saying that  he is not being honest. He lies, he should be honest. And If you meet someone who never ever speaks a lie, we say extremely honest person. One shouldn't be so honest in today's times. 

Just think, what we need to do now is shift from a very automatic way of living where we don't pause Before we think. we don't pause before we pass judgment on people. We don't pause before we decide this is right, this is wrong. 

You love sweets, most of you like sweets, most of the world likes sweets. So does that mean somebody who doesn't like sweets is not right. Is that okayy! It's all about conditioning. They maybe allergic to it. So we are thinking of logical reason that why they don't like sweets. 

We say expectation is normal. It just happens. Because we don't believe that we are creating it.

Sometimes we expect too much from others because we have done so much for them.

Don't blame people for embarrassing you, blame yourself for high expectations from them.

Expect from yourself, from your dreams, not from others.